This chapter of my life is called Happiness. This is my Soul Space…

I smile. I sweat. I motivate. I live. Realistically and Beautifully.


October 2014

Find the order. Respect the flow.


There is something to be said about the constant ebb and flow of life. The changes and the constants. The surprises and the monotony. It all cycles out. If we can remember that the universe has a plan, we can make it all a little less painful.

Keep moving. Keep doing. Keep working.

Do you ever find yourself in a rut of laziness and disregard? Some people may answer with a laugh and say “Yep, every darn day”, but ask yourself seriously. When do you feel lazy and unmotivated? It’s the same mental and physical process that feels like a stick stuck in the mud, we’ve all been there. He’s the thing, there really is no rhyme or reason to the flow of YOUR life. Stop comparing yourself to your friends who run marathons (literally), raise 6 kids, own their own business and grocery shop in lightning time. They may be on flow at that moment. Let them be!! I guarantee that Super Mom has her downtime too. Her opposite end of that flow.

If you feel like you can’t keep going, just do as much as you can to get by. I speak this out of experience. Believe me. I’ve been in a flow rut for a quite some time. Would everyone in my world know? Probably not. Maybe those close to me. They may have seen that my house wasn’t as tidy as it usually is. I may have complained of being a little more tired than usual. I may have invited them over for wine more times than our regularly scheduled programs. That’s all because my flow was off. You don’t have to make it known to every person what cycle of flow you are in, Just keep going. Use your friends when you need them. Use your partner when they offer to help. Let your boss give you that random day off because you look spent. Take that time to get done what you need to get done. BUT, here’s the kicker…. That day may have been your saving grace to get caught up and get your life in order. DO NOT beat yourself up if you spent that day sitting on your couch watching the entire season of ‘Orange is the New Black’. Just trust. Know that day was given to you to do what you needed and trust me, that flow will whip itself around and you will be buzzing around and getting your things done in no time. You have to trust the flow in order for the flow to make sense and be a driving force in your life.
When you feel the flow to get things done…. DO THOSE THINGS! It may be that pile of laundry or it may be really sitting down to write up that business plan for your dream business. Whatever you get the burst to do… do it. Trust it. That motivation you feel is your flow, it’s your time to make right what has been feeling like an overwhelming burden for too long. Your flow will always come around. It will always make itself right. Your world, your timing, your motivation, your peace is all on its own time schedule.



Burn the fancy candles.

The title of this blog may seem irrelevant, but it made perfect sense to me last night. As I sat in my home enjoying a beautiful fall night I realized I don’t always enjoy the little things as I’m in constant preparation of the future. Why would I not burn the beautiful, aromatic candle for myself? Why would I not eat my Veggies and Hummus out of the pretty bowls? Why would I not make the decisions in my life that will lead to my happiness? Life is now. It’s this second. It’s not tomorrow or even an hour from now. It’s now.

Knowing you deserve the best in life should help you choose all of the little things that make you happy. It may be realizing you are in a dead end job and it’s time to branch out and find new. Find something that makes you happy everyday. If you’re not able to do what you love everyday for work, your settling. You should do what you are passionate about. Period. Everyone has the means if they really make the effort, so make the effort. Show yourself that you DO deserve to be doing what makes you happy.

It also may be realizing the relationship you are in is not fulfilling you or helping you be the best you can be. Why would you stay in a relationship that does not motivate you to be the best, make you look forward to tomorrow, make you feel empowered, give you support or most importantly… Make you feel LOVED?? Why? Because it’s comfortable? Comfort is no longer comfort when you are sacrificing your happiness. Change is hard. Change is painful. Change is mandatory if you are not living a life filled with happiness. Period.

Take a look within. What could you do to create the happiness in your life that you so much deserve? Take the steps needed to change and get started. Every little action counts. Every moment you honor yourself counts. Knowing you deserve it is the first step, taking action will be continuous…. But so, so worth it.


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